2021

It's been a rollercoaster of an incredibly eye-opening journey during my time in this lifestyle. Good and not so good. 

I'm coming close to turning my back on it, and looking to explore more creative interests...more vanilla-focussed. 

Thank you to all of you who have taken the time to peruse my blog. 

Take care of yourselves.

Ma'am Neta 

7/2/21

September 2019

Wow, I haven't been on my blog for many months.

Just got caught up in life.  Both Kink and Vanilla.

A lot has happened over the years.  I have led the local kink scene for a period of time but have recently relinguished it, again, in order to focus on my other interests in life.

I will endeavour to post more often when time permits.

What has Ms Neta been up to over the past several months.

Organsing events.

Photography captures.

In a relationship with a submissive/switch

Out of a relationship with a submissive/switch

Learning a new role in my vanilla job.

Attending numerous events.

Battling with haters.

Mourning the loss of a few of my rescue animals.

Watching my youngsters growing older and taller than me.

Caning one of my bottoms.

Keeping numerous men at bay.

Protecting a potential new submissive who is really rather adorable, folks.

Training to enter a bodybuilding competition next year.

Bought a new car.

Off on a holiday soon.

Life is busy but in a very good way.

I look forward to posting more kink activities and thoughts with you all, very soon.

Happy Thursday, kinksters :)

I've returned after a long hiatus

Good morning All

Its been a long while since I have posted in my blog.

Life has been incredibly busy - kink and vanilla wise.

I am still busy in the local kink scene.  I led a very successful kink group but withdrew in November last year due to a few factors.  I am feeling in a better headspace now and am focussed on my local FemDom group, and a Sissy group. 

I've had a couple of D/s relationships that did not last for long.  One for about 2 months, and another for a year or so - with plenty of ups and downs.

I have taken up photography and so take photos of male submissives.  Its enjoyable but many of the men are "shy" and so hesitant, and some are thinking "ooh kinky sex", and others are flaky.  I've a handful of genuine men who I have done some lovely photos of, but I need to up the ante and do more artistic photos.  That will be a major focus for me this year.

I have also starting into body building - perhaps competition, later in the year.  I will see how well I am committed.

There have been many happenings and I look forward to posting updates more regularly this year - 2019.

Until beautiful people, Thank Goddess its Friday.


Ms Neta

Journal 12/10/16

Well its Hump Day today.  A glorious day even with the miserable weather plaguing Tas.

Life has been progressing rapidly.  Travel, holidays, looking for work, being pursued by a submissive, increase in animal welfare, ceasing a work opportunity for my eldest, dramas on another site, catching up with old kinky friends and plenty of kink activities on the horizon.

This old FemDom is too busy.

I discussed with my family today about what they would like to be served on Christmas Day.  Yes, Christmas Day.  It is almost here.  Unbelievable.  2016.  What a year.  Very much looking forward to 2017.

We are looking to travel to Japan next year...so savings will begin just after Christmas.  Next year will be a time for travel.  I am looking to visit Western Australia and Queensland in the first quarter of 2017.  Then next quarter will be South Australia to catch up with old Kinky contacts. 

I am also looking to reduce my Kink activities on another site and start focussing on other endeavours to excite the senses.  Time to move on and enjoy my kink life in a more private setting.

I've been around for about ten years and had some wonderful experiences but I believe, well, it is hoped, I remove my public face and just enjoy the people who serve me, quietly and privately.

I will return to my blog regularly to post updates but nothing as in-depth like I used to.  I am very much looking forward to enjoying time with my new submissive who has an amazing alpha personality, successful, handsome, committed, focussed, kind, and local.

My sister visited recently and it made me realise I do need to spend more time connecting with family rather than distancing myself.

Its a wonderful life out there, and I am about to embrace it with much more focus, and enjoyment rather than rejecting it.  My kink life is important to me but at this stage in my life, I do believe vanilla immersion is the path for me very soon.

I have a munch coming up for old and new kinksters in two weeks.

I have a CFNM event coming up with Tasmanian and Queensland FemDoms and submissives in three weeks.

I have a Kinky Christmas play party coming up quickly too in five weeks.

After these events, my kinky activity will reduce...and I will remove myself as subtlely as possible from the other site.  Life will go on, and I will change my focus and watch and support the people who are most important in my vanilla life.

Its time for a change.

Play Party 17/9/16

Play Party last night.

Awesome evening.

Lots of kinksters enjoying each other's company and energy.

Flogging, spanking, wax play, cage play, electro play, foot massage, lots of chatting.  It was such an enjoyable night.  I certainly had fun flogging a couple of males.

However, I did not play much as there were not many male subs, and, I was the Dungeon Monitor for the evening so that was my main focus.

This is the last PP for the north this year for the group I lead.  Next two are down in the south, so that will be fun and I won't have to travel long distances to get my kink on with a few others.

Today (18/9), I attended a Brunch Munch with a few of the kinksters who were at the PP last night.  That was nice.  Wind down time from such an intense night for many of them.  My food was delicious.  The weather was lousy but the company was enjoyable.

I am now relaxing for the evening, and look forward to a busy week with family visiting.

Question time - 10/9/16 - Psychological Domination

This style of domination is mentioned fairly often but what does that mean to you and how does it play out in your chosen relationship dynamic or a future dynamic?

Some thoughts:

Psychological domination in the context of a relationship could be having the submissive/slave remembering to perform a specific task for at a specific time. For example coffee at five, foot massage 15 minutes after dinner, a bubble bath an hour later.

Of course it is important you are not genuinely fucking with somebody's mind and/or causing them too much anguish.

*  Command presence - An old Army term that just alludes to the body language, vocal intonations and facial expressions that tend to make most people just instinctively do what they are told. Think along the lines how a mother controls a child or a boss controls an employee.

*  Manipulation - The word often seems to conjure up negative reactions around here, mainly because it's usually viewed through the lens of removing one’s ability to fully consent but within the frame work of a trusting, committed relationship one can consent to allowing their dominant to use manipulation tactics to make unpleasant tasks more palatable or easier to comply to.

*  Humiliation - A hard limit for many, but still one of the more well-known forms of psychological domination. Many find that humiliation can temporarily strip away a sub/slave’s ego and essentially make them more pliable. 

*  Fantasy/role playing - Like exaggerating personality traits that I know tends to invoke submissive responses from him. For example, occasionally taking on more of an evil bitch persona for a tease and denial session.  Another thing I've done is spin mental fantasies about our common kinks when everyday life makes it hard to find some time to actually enjoy them. Incorporating mind fucks is wicked.

Psychological domination can also be looked at as changing another's mindset. Training the sub/slave to recognise and anticipate my wants and needs. Training them to accept commands and be obedient (not mindless). It's about developing trust to a level where the sub/slave freely give up control of decision-making and alter their tendency to be self-centered and self-focussed in order to become focused on their dominant.

Physical domination is one path to psychological domination, although it can be treated a separate fetish in its own right. In essence, it’s the ability by one means or another to get into your sub/slave's head and exert control.  This might be playing up their fetishes, for example knowing what clothes push their buttons. It might be a forceful attitude or having a strong, nurturing presence. It will vary from person to person.  

In order to maintain the connection between my sub/slave and I, he is requested to tie his cock each day, or wear a cock ring depending on my daily instruction, set times to text me about his movements, as well as undertaking a mantra each evening.   The examples outlined reinforce the deeper level of the dynamic we have.

Anyone care to contribute to the question?

Journal 10/09/16

Good evening to those who pop into read my blog occasionally.

Its Saturday, and I am relaxing in bed, watching one of my favourite cop shows - SVU.

I have been working in a new jjob this week, and let me tell you people its been extremely challenging.  Not loving it particularly but it brings the money in.  I was offered another job earlier in the week but have decided to decline it as its not the kind of industry I wish to return to.

We have our play party next weekend up in Launceston and let me say, not feeling excited.  Most of the equipment is mine and I have to transfer it up there with the help of others but still it would be nice to have a set dungeon and not have to assemble then dismantle some of the equipment.  Cripes.

Overall, life has been going along well.  Nothing too major happening in life but its pleasant enough.  I am off to Melbourne with the family early October to spend some money and catch up with family.

November I have a few interstate FemDoms travelling to attend one of my CFnm play parties.  Tassie will be pumping along with the various parties that have been planned over the next few months.

Its absolutely wonderful to feel the temperatures rising... weather-wise  :)