This style of domination is mentioned fairly
often but what does that mean to you and how does it play out in your chosen
relationship dynamic or a future dynamic?
Some thoughts:
Psychological domination in the context of a
relationship could be having the submissive/slave remembering to perform a
specific task for at a specific time. For example coffee at five, foot massage
15 minutes after dinner, a bubble bath an hour later.
Of course it is important you are not genuinely
fucking with somebody's mind and/or causing them too much anguish.
* Command presence - An old Army term that just alludes to the body language,
vocal intonations and facial expressions that tend to make most people just
instinctively do what they are told. Think along the lines how a mother controls
a child or a boss controls an employee.
* Manipulation - The word often seems to conjure up negative reactions around
here, mainly because it's usually viewed through the lens of removing one’s
ability to fully consent but within the frame work of a trusting, committed
relationship one can consent to allowing their dominant to use manipulation
tactics to make unpleasant tasks more palatable or easier to comply to.
* Humiliation - A hard limit for many, but still one of the more well-known forms
of psychological domination. Many find that humiliation can temporarily strip
away a sub/slave’s ego and essentially make them more pliable.
* Fantasy/role playing - Like exaggerating personality traits that I know tends
to invoke submissive responses from him. For example, occasionally taking on
more of an evil bitch persona for a tease and denial session. Another thing I've done is spin mental
fantasies about our common kinks when everyday life makes it hard to find some
time to actually enjoy them. Incorporating mind fucks is wicked.
Psychological domination can also be looked at as
changing another's mindset. Training the sub/slave to recognise and anticipate
my wants and needs. Training them to accept commands and be obedient (not
mindless). It's about developing trust to a level where the sub/slave freely
give up control of decision-making and alter their tendency to be self-centered
and self-focussed in order to become focused on their dominant.
Physical domination is one path to psychological
domination, although it can be treated a separate fetish in its own right. In
essence, it’s the ability by one means or another to get into your sub/slave's
head and exert control. This might be
playing up their fetishes, for example knowing what clothes push their buttons.
It might be a forceful attitude or having a strong, nurturing presence. It will
vary from person to person.
In order to maintain the connection between my sub/slave and I, he is requested to tie his cock each day, or wear a cock ring depending on my daily instruction, set times to text me about his movements, as well as undertaking a mantra each evening. The examples outlined reinforce the deeper level of the dynamic we have.
Anyone care to contribute to the question?
