Journal 12/10/16

Well its Hump Day today.  A glorious day even with the miserable weather plaguing Tas.

Life has been progressing rapidly.  Travel, holidays, looking for work, being pursued by a submissive, increase in animal welfare, ceasing a work opportunity for my eldest, dramas on another site, catching up with old kinky friends and plenty of kink activities on the horizon.

This old FemDom is too busy.

I discussed with my family today about what they would like to be served on Christmas Day.  Yes, Christmas Day.  It is almost here.  Unbelievable.  2016.  What a year.  Very much looking forward to 2017.

We are looking to travel to Japan next year...so savings will begin just after Christmas.  Next year will be a time for travel.  I am looking to visit Western Australia and Queensland in the first quarter of 2017.  Then next quarter will be South Australia to catch up with old Kinky contacts. 

I am also looking to reduce my Kink activities on another site and start focussing on other endeavours to excite the senses.  Time to move on and enjoy my kink life in a more private setting.

I've been around for about ten years and had some wonderful experiences but I believe, well, it is hoped, I remove my public face and just enjoy the people who serve me, quietly and privately.

I will return to my blog regularly to post updates but nothing as in-depth like I used to.  I am very much looking forward to enjoying time with my new submissive who has an amazing alpha personality, successful, handsome, committed, focussed, kind, and local.

My sister visited recently and it made me realise I do need to spend more time connecting with family rather than distancing myself.

Its a wonderful life out there, and I am about to embrace it with much more focus, and enjoyment rather than rejecting it.  My kink life is important to me but at this stage in my life, I do believe vanilla immersion is the path for me very soon.

I have a munch coming up for old and new kinksters in two weeks.

I have a CFNM event coming up with Tasmanian and Queensland FemDoms and submissives in three weeks.

I have a Kinky Christmas play party coming up quickly too in five weeks.

After these events, my kinky activity will reduce...and I will remove myself as subtlely as possible from the other site.  Life will go on, and I will change my focus and watch and support the people who are most important in my vanilla life.

Its time for a change.

Play Party 17/9/16

Play Party last night.

Awesome evening.

Lots of kinksters enjoying each other's company and energy.

Flogging, spanking, wax play, cage play, electro play, foot massage, lots of chatting.  It was such an enjoyable night.  I certainly had fun flogging a couple of males.

However, I did not play much as there were not many male subs, and, I was the Dungeon Monitor for the evening so that was my main focus.

This is the last PP for the north this year for the group I lead.  Next two are down in the south, so that will be fun and I won't have to travel long distances to get my kink on with a few others.

Today (18/9), I attended a Brunch Munch with a few of the kinksters who were at the PP last night.  That was nice.  Wind down time from such an intense night for many of them.  My food was delicious.  The weather was lousy but the company was enjoyable.

I am now relaxing for the evening, and look forward to a busy week with family visiting.

Question time - 10/9/16 - Psychological Domination

This style of domination is mentioned fairly often but what does that mean to you and how does it play out in your chosen relationship dynamic or a future dynamic?

Some thoughts:

Psychological domination in the context of a relationship could be having the submissive/slave remembering to perform a specific task for at a specific time. For example coffee at five, foot massage 15 minutes after dinner, a bubble bath an hour later.

Of course it is important you are not genuinely fucking with somebody's mind and/or causing them too much anguish.

*  Command presence - An old Army term that just alludes to the body language, vocal intonations and facial expressions that tend to make most people just instinctively do what they are told. Think along the lines how a mother controls a child or a boss controls an employee.

*  Manipulation - The word often seems to conjure up negative reactions around here, mainly because it's usually viewed through the lens of removing one’s ability to fully consent but within the frame work of a trusting, committed relationship one can consent to allowing their dominant to use manipulation tactics to make unpleasant tasks more palatable or easier to comply to.

*  Humiliation - A hard limit for many, but still one of the more well-known forms of psychological domination. Many find that humiliation can temporarily strip away a sub/slave’s ego and essentially make them more pliable. 

*  Fantasy/role playing - Like exaggerating personality traits that I know tends to invoke submissive responses from him. For example, occasionally taking on more of an evil bitch persona for a tease and denial session.  Another thing I've done is spin mental fantasies about our common kinks when everyday life makes it hard to find some time to actually enjoy them. Incorporating mind fucks is wicked.

Psychological domination can also be looked at as changing another's mindset. Training the sub/slave to recognise and anticipate my wants and needs. Training them to accept commands and be obedient (not mindless). It's about developing trust to a level where the sub/slave freely give up control of decision-making and alter their tendency to be self-centered and self-focussed in order to become focused on their dominant.

Physical domination is one path to psychological domination, although it can be treated a separate fetish in its own right. In essence, it’s the ability by one means or another to get into your sub/slave's head and exert control.  This might be playing up their fetishes, for example knowing what clothes push their buttons. It might be a forceful attitude or having a strong, nurturing presence. It will vary from person to person.  

In order to maintain the connection between my sub/slave and I, he is requested to tie his cock each day, or wear a cock ring depending on my daily instruction, set times to text me about his movements, as well as undertaking a mantra each evening.   The examples outlined reinforce the deeper level of the dynamic we have.

Anyone care to contribute to the question?

Journal 10/09/16

Good evening to those who pop into read my blog occasionally.

Its Saturday, and I am relaxing in bed, watching one of my favourite cop shows - SVU.

I have been working in a new jjob this week, and let me tell you people its been extremely challenging.  Not loving it particularly but it brings the money in.  I was offered another job earlier in the week but have decided to decline it as its not the kind of industry I wish to return to.

We have our play party next weekend up in Launceston and let me say, not feeling excited.  Most of the equipment is mine and I have to transfer it up there with the help of others but still it would be nice to have a set dungeon and not have to assemble then dismantle some of the equipment.  Cripes.

Overall, life has been going along well.  Nothing too major happening in life but its pleasant enough.  I am off to Melbourne with the family early October to spend some money and catch up with family.

November I have a few interstate FemDoms travelling to attend one of my CFnm play parties.  Tassie will be pumping along with the various parties that have been planned over the next few months.

Its absolutely wonderful to feel the temperatures rising... weather-wise  :)

Calm?

Travel to Launceston 28/8/16

Sunday, I travelled up to Launceston to attend a munch for my local group.  Two other kinksters accompanied me.

The day was lovely, and my day had started early.

I got up early, prepared my animals, then left my residence at 8.40am in order to pick up another FemDom at 9.00am.  We then went to my old workplace to feed the animals there.

At 9.50am, we picked up a kinkster near Moonah, and off we went on our travels to have lunch with the northern kinksters.

We got to Campbelltown about 11.30am.

At 11.45am, we left Campbelltown, and I was immediately pulled up by the cops for speeding :(

The cop says you do realise you went pass 2 x 60km signs.  I said, no.  He said, what were you doing and I say - eating toast.  He said that's not a good enough reason.  I showed my license, etc.  Anyway, I was all very cutesy, and said he could not run my license but if I hadn't had a speeding fine in 3 years, I would receive a waiver caution.  Let's see what turns up in the mail this week.  A waiver or a $150 fine with the loss of 3 demerit points.  TEDIOUS.

Anyhoo we continued to travel to Launceston and arrived about 12pm.

Most of the kinksters were there.  I had 14 people in attendance.  It was a good turn out.  Some new people I hadn't met.

We all had a lovely meal and chatter.

We departed at 2.15pm, and I arrived home at 5pm.

This munch was a pre-cursor to the northern play party we have planned for September.  I am hoping to have at least 20-25 people.  Fingers crossed.  That said, I would be happy to settle for 20 kinksters getting their kink on.

That was my Sunday folks.  A long day but satisfying that people are keen to connect with likeminded in order to get their future kink on with each other.

A Strong Woman

Journal 23/8/16

Well this week has been rather up and down.

Crazy shit but I won't go into detail... it's tedious to relay.

This Sunday we have a munch being held in Launceston.  Only a dozen people but at least we have some kinksters who are interested in connecting with others on a social level... without the shy factor entering into the equation.

So let's talk about my week.

Monday, I had a lovely chat with my slave friend.  He's a cutie.

Also had to deal with some politics in my online group.  Again the usual person is involved and has affected a few things happening in the group but nothing major that I cannot handle.

I have a huge day at work tomorrow (Wed) so it will be a relief when that's over.

I have taken on chap to train for his future Mistress.  His training commenced last week with boundaries put in place.  He has be sent the slave positions to start learning in preparation for serving his future Mistress.  Besides the positions, he will be shown how to give a foot bath, and learn how to properly give a foot massage.  His training will continue for three months then he will be released to pursue his future Mistress.  He thinks the training is going to be easy... he's in for a shock.

My bill has been unwell of late.  I informed him he must go to the doctors.  He did today and he is now on the road to recovery.  He is a loyal and committed submissive.  I am blessed to have him in my life.  He has been given a hard time during his service to me but he still remains focussed and loyal.  Bless him.

We are taking the family out on Thursday for a congratulatory dinner for our eldest receiving amazing marks in her school work.  A lovely restaurant in Salamanca.

Friday, I am catching up with with a few of my ex staff from my last position.  Out to dinner in North Hobart.  Its a farewell for two other staff who recently resigned.  It appears I started a trend.  I cannot abide bureaucratic bullshit.

This week is half and half.  Half Vanilla interactions and half Kink interactions.  Awesome.  Balance is important in life.

Saturday will be testing the 'bottom/sub' to see how well he learnt his positions.  The cane will be in my hand.

Sunday.  Munch in Launceston.

I feel a little tired thinking about the week ahead.  Aah well can't complain.  Better it's interesting rather than a boring domestic life...like staying at home watching TV.

OK its off to bed for this Mistress. 

Email from the submissive I met today - 21/8/16

The feeling is mutual Miss : )

You are not only physically attractive but i am attracted to Your wonderful personality. You were an absolute pleasure to be with and be around :)

i Am lucky You decided to meet me Miss

Warm hugs submissively and on my knees to You 

***

As I said in my thoughts post earlier, I met this man from W.A. today.  He was a surprise.  When I laid my eyes on him, I thought: delicious, I could eat him all up.  My primalness within rose up, as I stared at him.   Luckily, I was only meeting him for a coffee and chat... perhaps later in the year, I will eat him all up.  Ha!

He reminded me of my ex slave, actually... but different.

Thoughts 21/8/16

My time has flown since last I visited here.

Well let's say my new job is flat out.  Exhilarating and stressful.  Yeah!

One day I will learn how to relax, however, life is busy at home, work, kink life.

Anyway I wanted to share with you something that happened to me yesterday... well actually a few things happened to me.

One, I discovered disloyalty, manipulation, hurt feelings, the farce of sisterhood, and the realness of sisterhood.  It was a rollercoaster of shit happening  *hehe*

I was feeling a little flat by something that occurred but I stand by belief in what was said to someone who continually attacks people online.  He got all hurt, and someone close to me, has been suckered in again by this person.  Its OK... I had a feeling it would happen.  My intuition most times is spot on.

Two, I went online to the usual site I frequent and saw some of my sisters in Queensland sitting in a throne I sat in late July.  The caption for the four photos of the four different Dominant Sisters was:  tribute to Ms Neta.  I was moved by their respect towards me... especially, women who do not live in my state.  I am thinking I should move to Queensland to be closer to other Dominant Women, who get it.  Who understand true Sisterhood, and commit to that philosophy.  These Women were in my company for a short period of time (a few hours) but in that period they were in awe of me, my presence, my realness.  They then created a fetish about me... ha ha ha.  OK, I was a little embarrassed by the newly created but hey, I'll own it.  "Doing it like a Queen like Ms Neta"

Jeeze

Anyhoo, that elevated me to a better frame of mind knowing there are genuine people out there who aren't ruled by petty jealousies and envy.  They were accepting of me, and obviously felt I was one of the real Lifestylers out there.  They are awesome... or is that mint?  And it is an absolute pleasure to be connected to them.

Oh, I must add that to slave's profile... just because. 

Today, I met up with a chap from W.A.  I met him on another site, and he was quiet and respectful.  Although originally a Tasmanian.  He was coming down to visit his folks, so we caught up today for a coffee.  Anyone been to the Cat Cafe in North Hobart?  I am not big on cats but let me tell you folks, it was bloody wonderful.  These cheeky cats running around, many sleeping feeling rather comfortable and safe in their environment.  The lovely submissive wasn't as unattractive as he portrayed.  In fact he was kind of sexy in a most interesting way.  However, this was a meet and greet.  He will return later in the year and we will reconnect.

Oh by the way there is a Cat Cafe in Subiaco, W.A.  I recommend you go and bask in the glory of those little beastie predators, and enjoy coffee and food at the same time.

May be I should visit W.A. to see what the FemDoms are like up there... something to think about for 2017.

OK, dinner is ready... I will return later with some other thoughts.

Confessional game

Here's your big chance to tell the world, and me... and still keep it a secret.

The Rules:

• Post 3 statements. (Not essays, statements.)
• Number them - 1, 2, 3 - because I said so.
• Each of the statements will describe a humiliating experience, as if it happened to you.
• One must be something true that has actually happened to you.
• The other two must not be true.
• They must all be plausible.
• No mention of people under 18 (including yourself), or animals, or actual rape. (Yes, that should be obvious but we know what you little sub-humans are like.)
• Think before you post. Once you've posted it, it's there for me, and others to see.
• Anyone can comment on the contributions

So, take your hand off your puny little cock, put it on the keyboard (and what a filthy, nasty keyboard it is), and...

Confess.

Question time - 13/8/16

How do men distinguish women they want to “wife”  or commit to, between the women they just want to have sex with?

Enquiring minds want to know…?

20 things to help keep life in perspective this year...

1. Nothing is permanent. You will learn this again and again and again. Impermanence is forever and it makes life exciting. Embrace change and enjoy the journey.

2. Lazy days are just as important as productive days. Don’t be afraid to take a day for yourself every once in a while, because contrary to popular belief, “lazy days” are far from unproductive. Alone time is not only important to refuel, but also to reflect.

3. With the right people by your side, you can survive anything. “Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see the greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.”

4. Success is, and will always be, subjective. Success means achieving the goals and objectives according to YOUR plan.

5. Speak your opinion, but don’t force it upon others.

6. Life literally never goes as planned, so don’t waste your time fretting about the future. Life is never going to work out how you planned and the sooner you accept that, the sooner you will start greeting the unexpected with open arms. Let the unknown, the unplanned and the possibility of change excite you. Let the future take you to places you never knew.

7. Keep your mind open to different cultures. Learn from other people and leave your assumptions behind. Don’t assume that your way is the only way or that you know everything.

8. If she mentions it more than once, it’s bothering her.

9. When it feels scary to jump, that’s exactly when you jump. Otherwise you end up staying the same place your whole life, and there’s nothing more scary than that.

10. Do not compromise who you are to impress someone else. Your trials, experiences and life altogether have sculpted you into the most lovely version of you possible. If a person doesn’t like the way you live, from your looks to your life choices, who cares? You were not put on this earth to impress them, or anyone for that matter.

11. Don’t let your losses keep you back from new gains.

12. Fall in love with someone who never lets you fall asleep thinking you’re unwanted. Someone who will never leave you behind and who will never take you for granted. Someone who will stand by you when you’re right and stand by you when you’re wrong.

13. Sometimes you miss the memories, not the person. People change, memories don’t.

14. The greatest prison that people live in is the fear of what other people think. Someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality. The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday. Caring too much about what people may say or think if you do something can keep you in the same old rut, unable to move forward and to live the life you truly want to live.

15. Pizza is always a good idea.

16. Don’t glamorize sadness. Sadness is not beautiful. Happiness is the most beautiful thing about a person.

17. Time is not a measure of quality; of infatuation, or of love. You can be in a relationship for two years and feel nothing; you can be in a relationship for 2 months and feel everything.

18. Sometimes all you need is some time in a beautiful place to clear your head.

19. Always be a little kinder than necessary. Kindness is contagious. You don’t know what someone else is going through and it’s not hard to make someone’s day a little special.

20. It will all be okay at the end of the day. Life has a funny way of working out.

A giggle

Forever

An interesting week

Well I have had an interesting week, this week.

I run a local online group which is also a real time group on a kink site.

I received two abusive emails from this one ‘dominant’ because I removed his comment from a thread that was attacking towards a member of our group.  Yes the person he was referring was not named but it upset a couple of people so I had to remove it.  The email from the 'dominant

was amusing nonetheless.

I received a threatening email from one dominant.  Sighs.

And, I received a complimentary email from a switch.  Hooray.

All very interesting in the space of 48 hours.

Then I commented on a status message in support of another dominant, and was again verbally attacked by the ‘dominant’.  Apparently he thinks I have so much power that I can bring the local scene together if I stamp out the trash.  Ha!  If only.

Then my dominant friend who made the status message came to my defense.  It was unnecessary as I responded to the ‘dominant’ in a most reasonable way…which irked him but it so amused me.

Then the next day a dominant joined my group and stated he was looking for people to play with in the north.  People who were into more sexual activities rather than BDSM.  I asked a question from the post… a few others responded to my question within this post.  I reminded the guy to read the information in the group since he was new to the group and scene.  He replied, insulted… how dare I suggest he read information as he was not interested in attending any of our planned events.  I should have twigged he was a troll.  I responded being most reasonable.  He backed down.  Then the dominant who sent me the threatening email the day before popped in and gave the troll some advice about where he can find likeminded on other sites to engage in the type of activities he was seeking.

I saw the troll return, and read his post.  It was aggressively attacking the dominant who had sent me a threatening email the day before.  Because the troll had mentioned that dominant’s name, it was my duty to the group to remove the comment, remove the troll from the group, and close the discussion.

The troll threatened to leave the site.  3 days later he is still on the site.  My goddess, the trolls are rampant.

And the most amusing thing about the issues I have had recently is, all the troublemakers are male dominants.  They are all petulant children who try to gaslight, threaten and abuse and all they are really doing is showing how puerile, ego-driven, pathetic, idiotic fools they truly are… and even more amusing, the community can see their behaviour.  

I will not tolerate shit from these male dominants.  They can say their shit outside of the group but come into my group and I will make an example of them…and believe you me, that is not just talk.  I am a Woman of my word, and will not tolerate bullshit from males who can’t get over their ego crap.

Sometimes its tough being a FemDom and a Woman running an online and real time group because of the jealousies, and haters.  Get over it boys, go start your own group!